THE WIFE SAID TO THE HUSBAND; HONEY, YOU MADE ME EAT THOSE CHOCOLATE CAKE, HUSBAND; NO HONEY, I DIDN’T MAKE YOU EAT THEM, I JUST ASKED IF YOU WILL WANT SOME CHOCOLATE CAKE, WIFE; BUT HONEY, YOU KNOW ABOUT MY WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY, YOU SHOULDN’T HAVE ASKED ME IF I WANTED SOME, NOW YOU HAVE MADE ME EAT THE CAKE, YOU MAKE ME FEEL BAD RIGHT NOW! HUSBAND; HONEY! HOW DID I MAKE YOU FEEL BAD, ALL I ASKED WAS A QUESTION, YOU COULD HAVE SAID NO! IT’S YOUR WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY NOT MINE…
This little scenario above is a short conversation between spouses, from the conversation you will understand that the wife is an external oriented person. This means that she doesn’t like owning her feelings or emotions, she like selling them to someone else. This might be as a result of how she was brought up, or simply because she uses it to escape guilt of not doing the required thing. She uses that as an excuse to justify her lack of discipline and negligence. It is a hurtful truth, but most people still lives in that kind of world today, In a world of “THEM” instead of “I”, “THEM” in this context means many things; (past, parents, relationships, society, economy, children, etc….). People let their emotions, feelings and life in general to be controlled by words said to them by someone else, by their past, by the society and so on.. People choose to be externally oriented rather than internally oriented.
The question is; WHAT HAS BEEN AN EXTERNALLY ORIENTED PERSON (BLAME AND EXCUSES) BROUGHT YOU SO FAR, HAS IT BROUGHT YOU HAPPINESS AND COMFORT, OR HAS IT BROUGHT YOU MORE PAIN, DISCOMFORT AND UNHAPPINESS? I GUARANTEE YOU THAT IF YOUR EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS ARE DEPENDENT ON “THEM” AND NOT “I”, IF YOUR LIFE’S ACTIONS ARE DETERMINED BY “THEM” AND NOT “I”, YOU WILL SURELY END UP IN DISAPPOINTMENTS, UNHAPPINESS AND PAIN.
Now what makes “I” powerful is; “I” makes you different, it makes you unique, it makes you own your emotions, feelings, mistakes, down and up moments, it makes you a BOSS. There’s nothing significant and meaningful that can be achieved in life when “I” is given 20% and “THEM” 80%. You need to understand this; “There will always be a bad parent(s), there will always be a bully boyfriend or girlfriend, there will always be a bad relationship, there will always be a bad government, there will always be winter, summer, spring, there will always be an unpleasant past, there will always be a failed business or marriage, but guess what; THERE CAN ONLY BE A ONE “YOU” IN A LIFETIME. Do you know how powerful that makes you, THE POWER OF “I”. So quit jerking around and make use of this power of “I”, if you are going to own your success, you can as well own your failures and mistakes. Am trying to be very sincere with you here, it’s easier to find excuses and blame for our mistakes and failures. I have done that uncountable times, and it became a pattern, but I fought hard to brake it and so can you.
ROBERT FROST IN “THE ROAD NOT TAKEN” SAID; “TWO ROADS DIVERGED IN A WOOD, AND I —- I TOOK THE ONE LESS TRAVELED BY, AND THAT MADE ALL THE DIFFERENCE”.
This statement above means the two roads of “THEM” and “I” and he took the one with “I” although it is less traveled by everyone, but he understood the POWER OF “I” and that made all the difference. So decide today; Which road are you going to travel on? The “THEM” or The “I”?
As I close out on this blog; I need you to understand that in the “I” lies the unknown, and the unknown is where growth resides, and in growth is where success and happiness dwells. Excuses and blames are just tools to keep us stagnant. You can’t be that man or woman you desire when you don’t take ownership of your emotions and feelings, STOP! selling them, don’t give people the permission to own them. OWN BOTH THE GOOD AND THE BAD. Perhaps you remember the story of the little bird; He had his wing over his eye and was crying. The owl said to the bird “You are crying. Yes, said the little bird, and he pulled his wing away from his eye. Oh, I see, said the owl, you are crying because the big bird pecked out your eye. “And the little bird said, No, I’m not crying because the big bird pecked out my eye. I’m crying because I let him”.
TODAY; I want to encourage you stop letting “THEM” rule over “I” it’s in the “I” that the true power lies.. Thank you for taking out your time to reaand stay tuned.